Monthly Archives: February 2011

Did my hair get flat? Did I stumble into some bad lighting?

After two weeks and a healed back, I took Pj to see Charles Busch’s new play The Divine Sister. We met for a quick drink before the play and did the typical second date chit chat. Since it was a school night and the play got out at 10pm, I was ready to hop on the train and send myself home. I don’t know if it was the two hiatus between dates but I still felt like maybe Pj wasn’t interested in me. Then out of the blue, Pj turns to me and asked if I was hungry. “Yes!” I hoping my responses would sound surprised and excited but I think it reeked of desperation. Continue reading

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Not Ignored, Just Injured!

The Monday after gorging on Gouda I decided to not  to think about boys. I said I would try! True to form as soon as I made this mental note POOF there is a boy. It was Pj, who I met while in Mexico. He wanted to take me out. Fuck my mental note! I was going on a date, a date with someone who already knows my status. Not a bad coffee/cocktails get to know you date, but a really real date. Continue reading

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Question: Is Knowing Really Half the Battle?

Once upon a time a prospective sexual partner, after hearing that I was HIV positive, said that he would have slept with me not knowing my status. Even though it wasn’t the first time that I have heard that statement, it still baffled me . One would assume that if a person is so concerned about HIV (and other sexually transmitted diseases) that he would ask about his prospective sexual partner’s status, and then STILL protect himself. We know that people are not always completely honest when answering such questions and many people unfortunately do not know their own statuses. Continue reading

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The Cheese Stands Alone

Before the holidays I made the conscious decision to go on more dates. I felt the final remnants of my last breakup disappear, and I was ready to dive into the dating pool. So, I dusted off my OkCupid membership (I know you have one too), and started to send out feelers. My initial goal was to try to go on date a week. So I did. We would begin with drinks or coffee then on to dinner. Only if it went well. Needless to say I went hungry one night a week. Not a bad diet.

At the end of December, I started chatting with TheFlyingDutchman (all names have been changed to protect the innocent). Continue reading

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Ring Them Bells

This year for New Years Mark (one of my best friends) and I decided to go away. Since his day job is that of an event planner, I usually take over all of the entertainment planning. My initial plan was to go to Playa del Carmen, Mexico. Mostly because I wanted to go to Chitzen Itza (to feel like Esteban in the Mysterious Cities of Gold – Look it up). But alas, I realized that trekking through ancient ruins doesn’t appeal to everyone, so we agreed upon Puerto Vallarta. Continue reading

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Welcome to My World…

Let’s get one thing straight, dating is hard. Hard for everyone. Uncomfortable, agonizing, unpleasant, awkward, and well…just plain hard.

Now imagine going on a first date and it is the most amazing date that you have had in quite some time. He is sweet, charming, smart, funny, attractive, and most importantly he has biceps the size of cantaloupes. Continue reading

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